Dances, Box Socials, Surprise Parties & Games!
When I visited John Jess (1909 – 2010) in 2009 he was quick to show me his fiddle that he had played for over 90 years; he proudly commented “you couldn’t imagine the amount of money this wee lady’s made for me!”
[John started playing the fiddle at the tender age of 7 purely because he loved the music. After many years playing at dances and social gatherings he was still playing the fiddle at home into his 90s. Clearly his love of fiddle music was his main driver; however earning money was also a factor.]
I asked John about the various dances he had played at; these were numerous, where dances were regularly held on Friday nights in various local halls and regular dancing classes were held two or three nights a week in different halls within the area. The dances were similar to those that John Simpson, Willie McCloy and Willie Savage played for.
John described the 1920/30s craze for “Surprise Parties” where a number of folk were organised by a friend to arrive at an unsuspecting house for a private party and dance, usually to celebrate a birthday or the like.
“Box Socials” or “Canadian Box Socials” were also popular. At these social functions young ladies would bake a cake and put it in a box. These were auctioned during the latter half of the evening and the gentleman who was the highest bidder not only got the cake but walked the young lady home as well. John sadly declared that the women ruined the Box Socials as they would put a distinguishing feature on the box, or tie the box with a recognisable ribbon to ensure, by prior arrangement, that the man of their choice successfully bid for them.
But John’s most surprising reply was to my question;
“Well John, you played at loads of dances in all these various halls, but did you ever play in Church Halls?”
“Oh, I’d say I did.”
“For dancing?”
“No, no, no. For games.”
I enquired what the games may have been. John, aged 100, lapsed into silence, but his daughter Betty suggested these may be; “the farmer wants a wife”, “musical chairs”, the grand old Duke of York”. Two years later when I discussed this with Will Patterson and Thomasene Rodgers they had recollections of “The Haymaker’s Jig”, “The Waves of Troy (I assume Tory)” and “Sir Roger” (which I assume is short for Sir Roger de Coverley).
A social held in 2nd Dromara Lecture Hall in connection with St John’s Parish Church Choir, was reported in the Leader, 1st February 1947, which stated;
Mr James Pollack, who acted as M.C., introduced a number of popular games, the music being supplied by Messrs. James Steenson and James Jess. Prizes for “musical knees” were won by Miss J. Lindsay and Mr J. Fee, and for the “honeymoon express” by Miss M. Maguire and Mr J. Rankin.
(Dromore Leader 1st February 1947)
In reality then, whilst Church Socials weren’t called dances many, in reality, weren’t far short of them.
Surprise Parties
The following report of the “greatest surprise party ever held in this neighbourhood” was described in the Dromore Leader;
“The greatest “surprise party” ever held in this neighbourhood took place on last Friday evening at Mr A. Chambers, Ballykeel. Over 400 persons were present, young and old, great and small being there – indeed one individual humourously remarked “they were there from the four winds of the earth.” At any-rate there can be no mistaking the popularity which Mr. and Mrs. Chambers enjoy. When it became known that Mr. Chambers was leaving the Cross Roads and going to reside at Sunnyside, a little further down the road, having sold his farm to Mr. Richard Graham, the opinion of all was that he would have to be given “a night,” and this was truly carried out. The accommodation, large though it is, was taxed to its fullest capacity in dealing with such a numerous company, and all bent of course on a jolly night’s amusement. The spacious barn, which is over 100 feet long, made an impromptu ballroom and in this the merry throng of dancers chased “the fleeting hours” until six o’clock the following morning. Messrs. James Alexander and Alex. Young having their “violinistic” abilities tested to the fullest extent. Mr. Joseph Alexander as M.C. had “some time” discharging the duties connected with the office. The catering for the wants of the mammoth gathering was carried out in Mr. Chambers’ dwelling-house, The Misses Jess, Miss Lily Walsh and Miss Clarke having a busy time as teamakers, and Messrs. James Murdock, John Alexander, and Dick Young as stewards.
During the night songs were given by – Miss Nellie Kingan, The Misses Graham, Miss L. Stewart, Messrs. William Wright Skelly, John Patterson, John Spence, Jack Eaton, Abraham Martin, and James Alexander.
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Before separating in the morning, Mr. Lavery, on behalf of the organisers of the event, thanked all for coming. He specially thanked the ladies who brought cakes, and the teamakers and stewards for the manner in which they had put forward the tea. He was sure he was voicing the sentiments of all when he said they rejoiced to know that Mr. and Mrs. Chambers were not leaving the neighbourhood, but only going a little further down the way. At M’Adams Cross Roads they would still be on the borders of Ballykeel. (Applause.) To their new home they certainly carried with them the best wishes of old and young. (Hear, hear, and applause.)
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Dromore Leader 11th February 1922
Quilting Parties
Quilting Parties are not generally associated with Irish culture, being most popular in North America, particularly the Appalachians. Quilting Parties were a social gathering where women met up to make a quilt and have a chat whilst doing it. The custom was generally linked in producing a quilt for a couple about to be married or a girl shortly “coming of age”. The soirees generally took place through the day, with the men folk joining the company after their normal day’s work was done. The party then took the traditional role of music, dancing and merrymaking.
Quilting parties are known to have taken place in the Low Country, around Ballyhalbert. The following description, which dates around the 1890s, was collected from Sally Young by Mark Thompson and Dick Glasgow;
James’s wife, Elizabeth Bailie, was a quiltmaker and would hold quilting parties when 8 – 10 other local women would come to the Bailie’s farmhouse and spend a few days making a quilt. When the quilt was done and the men had come back from their day’s work they would clear the barn and hold a celebratory barn dance for the completion of the quilt.
(Mark Thompson from Sally Young, August 2000. Sally is from Ballyfrench, a townland just south of Ballyhalbert.)
Another County Down reference to quilting parties was reported in the Dromore Leader in 1932, when it reported the death of William Coulter, a weaver born around 1834;
Mr William Coulter, Ballymacormick died on 28th October 1937 at a ripe old age. He was born at the Rock, Ballyvicknakelly. Mr Coulter in his early years took a keen interest in social evenings and dances, especially the old “quilting dances.
Dromore Leader 5th November 1932
House Warming Parties
House warming parties were another opportunity to indulge in the obviously very popular past-time of dancing; this is a brief description of one such party at well-sinker Thomas McClurg’s new cottage at Crossgar, Dromara as reported in the Dromore Leader in 1927.
(Two of Thomas’s sons, Jimmy and Charlie were well-known dance music fiddle players.)
House Warmer at Dromara
A most enjoyable “house warmer” was given at Crossgar, Dromara, a few evenings ago by Mr. Thos. McClurg and his sons, who have lately taken over occupation of a new cottage. About fifty guests were present, and after a couple of hours of dancing to the strains of melodious music contributed by Messrs. Chambers and Morgan, tea was served in excellent style Mrs. W.J. Moore, The Misses Rowan and Miss. M. Thompson. Dancing was subsequently indulged in with vigour and delight, songs being rendered at intervals by Mrs W.J. Moor, Mrs. J. Moore, Messrs. T. McClurg, J. Steele, W.J. Moore, and others. Before dispersing, Mr. Thos. Fee proposed that the best thanks of the company be given to Messrs. McClurg for the sumptuous manner in which they had been treated, and wished them long life and happiness in their new home. Mr. Wm. Maguire, seconding, the vote was passed by hearty acclamation.
(Dromore Leader, 26th November 1927)